I don’t really believe in monogamy.” I immediately confessed this at the beginning of my latest relationship. It’s best to get things like this out of the way before they start causing problems, like the problems that may arise when I sleep with other people. My insistence on non-monogamy, polyamory, or what’s commonly known as an open relationship, came after years of trying and failing, with a number of different partners, to be monogamous. I would start to feel either trapped or resentful of the limitations imposed on me and my sexuality by the person I loved. Sometimes I’d cheat. I may or may not have told them about it, but regardless I’d feel enormously guilty over something as potentially innocent as a kiss between friends. As I now refuse to live in a perpetually repressed or guilty state, the question becomes: where to go from here?