Fighting hate with love FTW! Or “how to shut up a gay-bashing preacher but QUICK!” Gave me goose bumps!
Women want sex, and in particular, they want sex with people who really want them. But socially, many straight men still find it a turnoff when women are sexual aggressors.
An excerpt in The New York Times Magazine two weeks ago explained how, contrary to long-standing cultural beliefs that women are turned on by stability and emotional intimacy, long-term monogamy actually saps women’s sex drives. A German researcher “shows women and men in new relationships reporting, on average, more or less equal lust for each other. But for women who’ve been with their partners between one and four years, a dive begins — and continues, leaving male desire far higher.” We fundamentally misunderstand women’s lust, says Bergner. And not just when it comes to married women.
But if we accept Bergner’s radical thesis that women do, in fact, like to get off, and get off on being desired, the question of who pursues whom poses a real conundrum for single women.Think about it: Women want sex, and in particular, they want sex with people who really want them. But socially, many straight men still find it a turnoff when women are sexual aggressors. Which means that, for women, aggressively pursuing the thing they want actually leads to them not getting it.
LustyGuy and I hit it all this week! Brazil’s hairy balls, gay boy scouts and how to deal with your polyamory when your pregnancy makes it public! Links to stream and download podcast episode 359 in the link!
The Bible of psychiatry says that whip, chain and nipple clamp filled sex could be problematic, but a new study claims that a kinky sex life might actually be good for one’s health.
I like this very much
KimchiCuddles FTW. Great new-ish poly web comic. Let’s support this!
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The most common question (and usually the first) a poly-identified person is asked is, “But don’t you get jealous? Isn’t that hard to deal with?”
Yeah, it can be. But so are kids, and no one argues that the value of dealing with the emotions kids rile up isn’t worth it.
So, looking at doing another episode on jealousy, and let’s crowdsource this mutha! How do you deal with your own jealousy? And what advice do you give to others about coping with it?
The Boy Scouts of America voted to allow openly gay youths as members, while continuing its policy of excluding openly gay adult leaders.
More than 1,400 volunteer leaders from across the country voted, with more than 60 percent approving a measure that said no youth may be denied membership “on the basis of sexual orientation or preference alone.”
I heard a report on NPR with some parent in Texas saying he was pulling his kid out of Boy Scouts for his “safety.” So… your kid is “safe” when his friends are closeted but unsafe when they are open? How does that make sense?
Inspired by pop stars and encouraged by culture that equates success with physical beauty, the “self-racism subtext” of buying an ideal Korean face
California-born Kim has already undergone two procedures: a nose job and double eyelid surgery. These have given her eyes a Western crease and made her nose small and high. Kim had full support from her family for these operations. And why shouldn’t she? Her mother and aunts have all had similar operations. Kim hopes to study psychology when she goes to college, but she’s deferring for a year so she can work and save money for more surgery.
This is horrible, horrible, horrible. I’ve heard that in some Asian cultures, plastic surgery is as de rigeur as a Sweet Sixteen birthday party or learning to drive. But I find this obsession with looks—especially Western looks—and self-mutilation at such a young age repulsive.
